Infertility has been deemed social disease by the W.H.O. It is estimated that in Poland there are around 20- 25 % couples who are experiencing conception problems. This also includes women suffering from miscarriages. These numbers, however, can be just the tip of the iceberg.
Young people are traditionally prepared for starting a family and bringing up children. The infertility diagnosis is often a surprise. No one prepares oneself for such a possibility. If you are experiencing problems to achieve pregnancy, you probably feel sad, angry, disappointed, helpless, frustrated, anxious, unsure and wronged.
You are avoiding contacts with your family, which wants you to have offspring, as well as your friends, who have become parents. You are also disappointed with your marriage and you keep reproaching your partner his lack of understanding and interest in having a child. And there is so much punctuality and routine in your sexual life that it resembles a train timetable. You probably are obsessively thinking of pregnancy and you apply various magic methods in hope your greatest dream will come true.
You are exhausted feeling either hope or frustration and depression. And you probably are fed up with humiliating, expensive and ineffective medical procedures that you have to endure. You miss the times when you were able to enjoy life and the closeness of the person you love.
If you see any likelihood between your situation and the one described above, you are one out of thousands for whom the infertility has been the most difficult experience of their lives. But lots of them passed this exam and they regained their joy of life, even though not all of them managed to give birth to a child. For many people going through the infertility crisis appears to be an opportunity to consolidate their marriage and a stimulus of personal and mental development.
The assisted reproduction techniques are often a huge mental burden for a family. They are very expensive too. And their effectiveness is relatively low. For instance, by in vitro fertilization the chances of getting pregnant at first attempt are 30 %. That is why more attempts have to be made, sometimes even a dozen or so. Every unsuccessful attempt results in taking huge doses of medications, a feeling of severe loss and failure, loss of hope and despair.
Psychotherapy provides an invaluable help. According to some research it increases the chance of having a child even by 40 %. Tension, stress, depression and anxiety caused by infertility issue have a direct impact on the functioning of the nervous, immune and endocrine system, in other words on the physiology of the organism. Moreover, medicine cannot provide answers for the causes of many infertility cases. Nowadays, it is believed that our psyche is responsible for these dysfunctions.
Psychotherapy is helpful in many aspects of the infertility treatment, such as giving up the treatment, as well as deciding to adopt a child or remain childless. Here are some advantages of the therapy:

If you feel that your life has become senseless, if dreaming of a child is occupying you all the time; if you feel worse, disabled; if you think that you don't have any control over your body, your emotions and your thoughts; if waiting for a child becomes unbearable, try psychotherapy. It is really worth trying.